Doulas vs support people
I often get asked “why would I need a doula? I have a supportive partner.” My response is, “You don’t need a doula, but do you know what a doula does?”
Having a supportive partner is incredible in your birth space. No one knows you better than they do. They know how you feel loved, they know your mannerisms and they love you unconditionally. Those things are irreplaceable.
But they often don’t know what birth looks like or the flow of labor.
A doula comes with a wealth of knowledge about physiological birth, labor/birth positions and comfort measures. We are here to not only support you but to also support your partner. We are here for you both to lean on for emotional and physical support.
Partners often feel overwhelmed or uncomfortable with the sight of their loved one in pain. It is hard for them, and as doulas we recognize that and provide relief for them to be able to go and take care of themselves during the labor process. Having a doula present allows for you to have continuous support and everyone’s needs met.
We spend many hours before labor begins talking about what you both what labor and birth to look like. We will show them hands-on techniques to ease your discomfort and support you in any position that may be comfortable to you. We’re not here to take the place of your partner but rather enhance both of your experiences.
Doulas are also here to answer questions and bounce ideas off of, as doulas we are experts in the birthing process. Our job is to help you understand and be comfortable with anything that may be going on during your labor and birth.
It is also important to decide prior to labor if you want any other support people there, such as a mother, a sister or a friend. Doula’s can be there to help you make this decision and weigh the pros and cons of having extra support people there.
I believe that every person in your birthing space should serve a purpose. They should bring positive and encouraging energy. If you wouldn’t be comfortable pooping in front of them then I wouldn’t invite them to be a part of your birth.
All in all, you don’t NEED a doula. But having supportive people around you does not equal the same support a doula will give.
